Dating and Courting...

I once read a book, Arms of Love, and it has changed my perspective. I used to debunk the idea of courting right away, but I think that is because I really didn't know what it was. Not only that, but I was 15 and in my first dating relationship. So, I didn't read the book. It took me about two years, if not more, to sit and read it (four years after I received it as a gift). Once I did, I fell in love with the idea...and now finally choosing to live for God, five relationships later, and a heart broken more than once, the idea of courting has become appealing.

You may ask what is courting and everyone has their own views, but to me it's more than a relationship...it starts though with a friendship, and two people decide to try being more than just friends. These people try to find out that the other is who they are suppose to spend the rest of their lives together. It's a commit to each other. They have a basis of a friendship and with family, friends and God's help, they decide if it is the right person. That's a brief summary anyway.

Why is this so appealing? Well, no more pain and heartbreak. It's a friendship and if done perfectly, which nothing is besides The Creator, in the end you have a good friend who knows you whether you end up being together forever or not. I would like that. I'm tired of false promises and pain. My heart belongs to God, because I know he won't cause me pain like that. And when the next guy comes along, I'd rather court than date him. Not that I have time for such a thing. Because I need to focus on school and my relationship with God right now. But I'd be happy if he would be willing to court me, because dating isn't about having fun to me, but finding the man I'm suppose to spend the rest of my life with.